This was brought to our attention by one of our homeschooling PALs. Most homeschooling parents are used to many questions from other parents that choose a different education option for their kids. They usually want to ensure others understand that homeschooling is just another option for kids and every parent that decides to homeschool does with a variety of reasons. We had to share the first 10 Bitter Homeschooler’s Wish List. You can read all 25 reasons and learn more about the Secular Homeschooling magazine by visiting www.secular-homeschooling.com .
by Deborah Markus, from Secular Homeschooling, Issue #1, Fall 2007
- Please stop asking us if it’s legal. If it is — and it is — it’s insulting to imply that we’re criminals. And if we were criminals, would we admit it?
- Learn what the words “socialize” and “socialization” mean, and use the one you really mean instead of mixing them up the way you do now. Socializing means hanging out with other people for fun. Socialization means having acquired the skills necessary to do so successfully and pleasantly. If you’re talking to me and my kids, that means that we do in fact go outside now and then to visit the other human beings on the planet, and you can safely assume that we’ve got a decent grasp of both concepts.
- Quit interrupting my kid at her dance lesson, scout meeting, choir practice, baseball game, art class, field trip, park day, music class, 4H club, or soccer lesson to ask her if as a homeschooler she ever gets to socialize.
- Don’t assume that every homeschooler you meet is homeschooling for the same reasons and in the same way as that one homeschooler you know.
- If that homeschooler you know is actually someone you saw on TV, either on the news or on a “reality” show, the above goes double.
- Please stop telling us horror stories about the homeschoolers you know, know of, or think you might know who ruined their lives by homeschooling. You’re probably the same little bluebird of happiness whose hobby is running up to pregnant women and inducing premature labor by telling them every ghastly birth story you’ve ever heard. We all hate you, so please go away.
- We don’t look horrified and start quizzing your kids when we hear they’re in public school. Please stop drilling our children like potential oil fields to see if we’re doing what you consider an adequate job of homeschooling.
- Stop assuming all homeschoolers are religious.
- Stop assuming that if we’re religious, we must be homeschooling for religious reasons.
- We didn’t go through all the reading, learning, thinking, weighing of options, experimenting, and worrying that goes into homeschooling just to annoy you. Really. This was a deeply personal decision, tailored to the specifics of our family. Stop taking the bare fact of our being homeschoolers as either an affront or a judgment about your own educational decisions.